Choose Your Hard.
What’s hard? For me, it’s eating too much sugar (and feeling cruddy because of it) and it’s dealing with the craving to eat too much sugar. It’s talking behind someone’s back (and feeling bad about it) and it’s practicing restraint. It’s exercising nearly every day and it’s not exercising (and having less energy because of it). It’s putting forth the necessary efforts to meditate properly and it’s lazily curling up on the couch trying to get comfortable while also trying to meditate (which might make me comfortable temporarily but doesn’t offer many of the benefits of proper meditation).
I’m learning how to chose my ‘hard.’
It can be hard to do all the things that I know are good for me…but it is certainly hard to not do all the things that I know are good for me (which are also always good for others in my life, I have found).
For all the smack I talk about Facebook and social media, this lesson of choosing my hard came from a childhood neighbor’s Facebook post.
Do you think you’re better off over all with social media? I got on Facebook and Instagram to connect with folks about our work with tiny houses. I’ve lost my steam with posting for the most part and while I’d still like to connect with folks interested in small, sustainably-minded, creative spaces, I’m afraid it won’t be through social media. I found I was mindlessly scrolling through my facebook feed, looking at people, some of whom I barely ever knew, and their seemingly perfect lives-vacations, smiles, kids, successful projects, etc. I know life is far from perfect so better I take that time to breath or paint. I do like to stay in touch with each of you and am honored you spend some of your time reading these updates.
Our lives are slowing down and that is sweet. Jon is working on a custom built-in dresser job for some dear folks and I’m making little improvements on our land that have been wanting attention for some time. Feeling grateful for support Jon and I got from a local talk therapist, feeling grateful for my parents and their support of me (and feeling proud of my dad-who walked “around the world” from 2009 to November 2017), feeling grateful for all the folks who encourage our work with tiny houses, feeling grateful for friends who can honestly talk about sugar sensitivity and gut health problems (such common things they are!).
Also, I’m feeling grateful for a talk Jon and I were able to attend by Dr. Paul Fleischman, a retire psychologist, author, and Vipassana meditation teacher. He asked us to clarify our motivation for meditation and how having that clear will help make doing it easier. In the days since that talk, I have found that to be so true and think it is great advice for most things in life. Easy to bumble through one’s days without clarifying why we are doing what we are doing.
I wish you health and joy this holiday season.
A journey in living simple. An experiment for a wholesome life, good for others, oneself, and the environment.